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2012 World Tapping Summit Starts Monday!

Posted by Ellen Gray on May 4, 2012 at 4:20 PM Comments comments (0)

     I have no doubt that energy medicine, energy psychology and techniques to alter the glitches in our body's energetic/information system will be commonplace in healthcare in the future. Inner technologies may increasingly supplant many existing outer technologies (drugs and surgeries for instance). These newer techniques make use of our most cutting-edge scientific and philospophical knowledge without articulating exactly how this happens. Science, and certainly medicine, have reached a point where the dominant paradigms are able to explain fewer and fewer observable phenomena. Meridian tapping, or the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), has been shown in practice to be amazingly effective at resolving trauma, reducing fear and worry, stopping pain, and helping people just "get over it."


     At this point we have clues and hunches about what is going on when we tap on particular locations on the body while summoning to active emotional awareness the problems we want to solve. In one theory, energy may be traveling along the meridians to the "knot" or blockage that was created when a traumatic memory was laid down. As the energy is allowed to freely flow again, the problem abates. Alternately, it may be that the brain structure called the amygdala is somehow encouraged by the tapping process to shuttle reactive fears to the frontal brain where they can be dealt with more effectively . Or it may be that the original state of anxiety cannot coexist with the state of calm induced by the tapping, and the anxiety simply dissipates. Although we do not yet know the exact mechanism by which the normalizing takes place, we can easily see that it does. There are no known side effects to this set of techniques. They are easily learned and can be administered in the context of therapy, or they can be self-administered. Even children can master them.


     Starting this Monday an event will take place on line whereby you can learn about EFT absolutely free in a series of talks and demonstrations by many different experts in the technique. The talks are live-streamed and recorded for replay for 24 hours after airing. Please check this out if you have any interest.  http://www.thetappingsolution.com/2012tappingworldsummit/

There Is No Price of Admission at the Time of Harvest

Posted by Ellen Gray on January 8, 2012 at 10:40 PM Comments comments (0)

     After falling off the writing track when my previous website was hacked and my earlier blog entries lost, I am emerging anew in the blogosphere spurred on by the start of a new year (and not just any year, at that).  Because January is a time of angst and resolutions, I will write my first entry about one of the top three domains of New Year's Resolutions,  financial discipline.  I am certainly not anti-financial discipline.  I believe we all could use more of that.  But sometimes our choices, if they come out of the fear of doing without in some nebulous future, can rob us of soul-nurturing experiences here and now. The steady paycheck instead of the risky but exciting new venture can exact a toll far greater than a little financial insecurity.  It can lead to regrets down the line of life 


    A scarcity mindset is one of the most prevalent neurotic templates I encounter among those I work with.  It underlies many unhealthy lifestyles, dysfunctional interpersonal problems, eating, hoarding and shopping addictions of many stripes, and much generalized human suffering.  I found myself saying to a client a while back, who was agonizing over one of those either/or career decisions, "It's only money."  Luckily, she found that strangely comforting because I did not mean to be flippant or dismissive.  What I intended was to challenge her unexamined assumption that financial security always trumps and trivializes any other motivation;  after all--we're adults.  But life is to be lived, and enjoyed, and we are here to produce and create and contribute.  And we are here to be happy--we do the most good that way.


     What I have referred to as a scarcity mindset is made up of  several limiting beliefs.  Psychotherapy is effective at ferreting out our beliefs that are limiting us.  Energy psychotherapy techniques such as the Emotional Freedom Teachnique (tapping therapy) is particularly good for releasing these limiting beliefs.